When you decide to make major and noticeable changes in your life, more often than not, you will face some form of criticism. Though many are fortunate enough to have supportive people in their life, almost all have a few naysayers. If you’ve read previous content, you may notice that I reference social media a lot in shaping the way we think about ourselves and how we conduct our lives. We’ve gotten used to the likes, the shares, and the comments. Furthermore, in our decision making, we factor in the approval rating of others and how complementary they will be of our actions.
When we think that we won’t get approval from the people in our real and virtual lives we can become paralyzed when it comes to making even the most important choices. This could be a decision to stop excessively drinking, to stop pretending everything is okay and leave an unhealthy relationship, to move to a different state or country, or to stop overspending on materialistic things. It can even be making the decision to start working on developing yourself, which may mean separating from those said real life and virtual friends. How attached are you to others’ compliments, and are you equally in fear of their criticism all in the name of social acceptance? We have been paralyzed but it’s time to break free.
We’ve gotten used to the likes, the shares, and the comments. Furthermore, in our decision making, we factor in the approval rating of others and how complementary they will be of our actions.
We need to take our minds back from this control we have allowed to suppress us. We have to take responsibility for the people approval addiction we have allowed to grow into weeds in our life. Whether it was planted by our own actions or through unfortunate life experiences inflicted by others. We have to man and woman up and start uprooting.
In my own life, I have had to take actions towards my own self-development inclusive of cutting out social media. My addiction was not Facebook or Instagram, but Whatsapp. I was addicted to immediate responses and when I didn’t get it, it caused me anxiety. I have also had to ask myself important questions so I could weed out what wasn’t working in my life. I have outlined some of these questions in another post.
What’s worth more, living your life by others’ compliments and criticisms or living a better quality of life by choosing to ignore all that and working on the (wo)man in the mirror?
When you decide to make some life changes that will impact your life at the exclusion of others expect to lose some, if not all of your popularity. Except people to talk about you and even say that you think you are better than them. However, most importantly, expect that you will see an improvement in who you are and gain a better quality of life. Now, here’s a question I need you to ask yourself, what’s worth more, living your life by others’ compliments and criticisms or living a better quality of life by choosing to ignore all that and working on the (wo)man in the mirror?