Life is a culmination of seasons. At different points, you may notice that certain friendships are being nurtured more than others, you are full of determination and are accomplishing those short-term goals. You may even notice that most of your days are full of joy and things, for the most part, are going your way. At other points in your life you may feel that you are crumbling, nothing is going your way, and you are about to crash if you haven’t already. At these moments is when you feel like you want to disappear, make yourself invisible and go somewhere that you cannot be found. You want to go back to the beginning, to the time before everything became a mess. You want to start over. However, you feel you can’t. After all, its you that created the monsters you now have to deal with. I am here to tell you, you can START OVER.
Starting over does not mean you ignore the responsibilities you have in life. It does not mean that you walk away from your family, your job, and your bills. Starting over is a mental evaluation of your situation and examining how your choices have led you down the path that you are now. This is most applicable for situations you view as negative or having a negative impact on your mental health. It is understanding that you are never trapped in any situation as long as you have right thinking. It is our thoughts that control our lives. Two people can be in similar circumstances and the way they think can be the vehicle they use to overcome that obstacle or not.
Starting over is a mental evaluation of your situation and examining how your choices have led you down the path that you are now.
It is understanding that you are never trapped in any situation as long as you have right thinking.
Starting over is your new birth of positive thinking, positive relationships, and positive habits. It is letting go of what is not working, what is not necessary, and what is not good for you. This is inclusive of things and people you thought you couldn’t live without, that you thought would be on this life journey with you until you returned to the dust from which you were created. Here’s where the mental evaluation comes into play. Some of the letting go will hurt you more than others because it will require letting go of what you thought was good. However, upon further examination, you would have realized that this “good thing” was a detriment to your development.
For instance, for many of us, letting go of someone we have had in our lives that have captured our hearts, whether through friendship or romance, is very hard. Though all the signs indicate “get out of there” we are attached and have decided within ourselves that their presence is required and we cannot be without them. However, on the other hand, their very presence has caused us unwarranted pain and has been a hindrance to our self-development. Yes, they may have added value to our very being in one way or another, but all the signs lead to the season of that partnership being up and we know it. Our mental inventory requires that we discard of any toxicity, things, and people, no matter how long they have been present in our life.
This period of self-examination requires you to be completely honest with yourself. It requires you to make tough choices. It requires a lot of letting go. However, if you don’t go through this process you are leading yourself down a path of self-destruction. You will never be able to triumph while living a defeated life.
Our mental inventory requires that we discard of any toxicity, things and people, no matter how long they have been present in our life.
As you make the commitment to start over, be confident that the shifts that will take place in your life will lead you down a path of wholeness. All things will become new for you and you will create habits that are conducive to your healthy mental development and better choices.