The struggle has been real for me! No lie! Rejection, after rejection, after rejection. Followed by tears on my pillow, tears in my cereal, and tears in my shower. “I am qualified!” “I am capable.” “What’s wrong with me?!” “I have my Degree. I am educated.” I often felt the shame of the questioning eyes, resolved that I was not the right person for this or the right person for that.
I went through many years of “fed-up-ness”. Years of waking up in the morning, not looking forward to going to through the monotony of the day-to-day, not looking forward to another draining day of working under a psychotic (in my humble opinion) boss, not looking forward to supporting someone else’s dream when I had dreams of my own burning within me. The entrepreneurial desire lit my booty on fire on a daily basis. In between not working (for very short periods of time, usually always had a job), to not making enough (pretty much all the time), and basically wanting to be my own boss (every second of the day), I would start a little side hustle here and there, from selling medical supplies to consulting. Throughout the years, I pondered starting a few hundred more. (I mean, hasn’t everyone who is trying to escape their current employment situation, lol)… Many times I reached my breaking point, and yes I cried even more, snotty nose and all. Can anyone say, “Frustraaaatttttiiiooooonnnn?!”
My breaking point was November 2016. I was a supervisor in a particular establishment, my boss and I were not on the same page and I had to walk away. I was ti-ad of it all. I decided my next job would be me working for myself…. Fast forward, I am now the proprietor of a small consignment business (when you sell products on behalf of the owner and then get a commission when it sells), and would you believe it, I even wrote a book, find out more here. I live where you vacation which equates to a tiny island. Oftentimes, the process of getting official business done can be a bigger headache than living in a bigger country. When trying to sort out the business, a lot of my days were spent walking up and down in the hot Caribbean sun. I grew up in New York, and unfortunately, many New Yorkers don’t learn how to or choose not to, drive due to a great transportation system. I am par to the former group. I did take driving lessons when I came to the Caribbean but end up crying on my road test and never went back (but that’s a story for another day). The moral of the story, I don’t have a license. However, speaking of New York and despite not driving, I have attained a New York ‘hustler spirit’ and a little bit of blazing, desert-like sun did not keep me from walking back and forth on this hilly island to sort out my business. Long story short, I got my business license and a business place in a prime location. This was not an easy process.
Hustler (n.) – an aggressively enterprising person; a go-getter.
Ladies, in life, when you want to get something done, you have to go above and beyond the call of duty to make it happen. Hence, you have to be a hustler. Below are three reasons why ladies need to hustle and hustle hard.
- It is March 31st, the dawn of Women’s History Month, and if you don’t know a little bit of women’s history, please stop reading this article and Google immediately! Women have STRUGGLED hard to get much of the rights we have today. During the process, we have been beaten, raped, marginilized, had the door slammed in our faces, etc. etc. etc. Guess what, this is still happening today. We need to hustle hard to make our dreams come true because there are some insane people out there who don’t want us to achieve anything, or want us to get but so far in the process of achievement. Don’t give them the satisfaction.
- Another reason is there need to be more women entrepreneurs. Ladies, we need to own more businesses. Men are more aggressive when it comes to establishing businesses. I have known of businesses, started by men (women too), that make absolutely no sense in my mind’s eye, but to someone else it does and the business is patronized and thrives. Women second guess themselves more often. We are sure of an idea in the beginning and then two hours later, after having messaged our bff telling them about our fabulous new idea and even writing down a few points, we cower and begin to go into cold sweats, unsure of it all. There is no problem with thinking things through. However, you have to take a risk at some time; take a look at this article for further motivation. Business is risky and I am not one to suggest that you invest your life savings into a business venture, heck no. However, if you never try anything, you will be 35, then 47, then 61, and then 80 (in your adult diaper), having done nothing at all. Think about that.
- We are in an age where everyone wants to live ‘intentionally’. We want to be ‘purposelful’ in our living and find out what our ‘life’s work’ is. Well, honey, you are going to have to do some hustling to figure some of these things out. You are going to have to do more than go to yoga, go vegan, and/or read some motivational books to make this happen. You are going to have to get up out of bed (in the morning), go to the bathroom, bathe, brush your teeth, put on some clothes, and walk out the door in your heels, loafers, sandals, or whatever, and make the connections, network, keep appointments, go to seminars, take a course, look for a job (so you can save the money to start your own business), and HUSTLE.
LADIES, we NEED to do MORE! I am not picking on you, but this blog is dedicated to women (though I welcome male readers) and I am a woman, so I am specifically talking to you. “If you want to be somebody, if you want to go somewhere, you better wake up and pay attention” ( to what I am saying). Hustle, and hustle hard. Unless there is weather advisory, an emergency, or you feel sick, do what is necessary (legally and respectfully) to achieve your goals. Most of us have were not born with a silver spoon in our mouth. Many of our portions have been plastic spoons (lol), and that’s ok. However, if you want the silver spoon, then work for it. Hustle and hustle hard. I’m actually working on a gold spoon right now (smile). In conclusion, always remember while on your way to the top, be an Ujima Woman, read what that is here, and assist other women along the way.